When it came to learning about sex as a boy, the best thing that ever happened to me is what didn't happen. I didn't learn about sex until the age of 15 when I went to work in my uncle's diamond factory. I remember listening with some fascination to my fellow employees' tales of conquest and asking myself, if I had a young daughter, would I let guys do things like that to her? Having decided clearly that I would not, I looked upon my own impulses and knew that I could not do to other men's daughters what my nature would lead me to do. What those young men saw as fun and pleasure, I saw as terribly degrading to women. Because I was old enough and mature enough to look beyond my newly awakened feelings, I retained my innocence which protected me like an impenetrable bubble.
It was like constantly being chaperoned by my conscience.
I was lucky. Not having been pushed/seduced into sexual awakening at a too tender age, I was able, like many of my generation, to wait for the right time and place to express that side of my nature, and to avoid a great deal of heartache, disease and tragedy in the process. Today's children are not so lucky. They are literally bombarded with sex from every direction – TV, film, music, peer pressure. But perhaps the worst violators of all are the sex education classes taught in schools – the very institutions we depend on to prepare our children for the future.
Let us explore what happens to the innocent mind of a young boy or girl when confronted with explicit sexual material.
First, let's acknowledge an important point: We are all born with a basic, indwelling standard of decency – a knowledge of right and wrong, a conscience – which by its very nature has the power to hold sway over unruly passions. But it is equally true that a child can all too quickly be separated/seduced from that standard through intimidation or shock – the kind of shock a child experiences when exposed to graphic sexual material.
That is why the kind of guidance children receive is so important. It can either confirm the promptings of their conscience and set them firmly on the right track, or it can contradict the child's conscience and instead become the source of corruption itself. That is exactly what has happened in the nation's classrooms.
Once the child has been separated from his inner standard by being sexually awakened prematurely, he becomes hopelessly dependent on the seducer for the guidance he can no longer find from within. Under the banner of education, teachers have become seducers – corrupters of innocence who usher young people into forbidden sexual experiences that lead to teen pregnancy, abortion, sexual diseases, and mental and emotional problems.
Consider the effect of a Playboy centrefold on a young boy; or the effect on a female child of seeing her dad's nakedness; or the shock a young child experiences while hearing his parents groaning in the next room – even a three year old senses the meaning of the sounds without completely understanding them.
A child drawn too early into that adult world of sensuality is faced with two ‘choices’: unhealthy expression of his overpowering impulses, or unhealthy repression. Gone is the hope of incubating a natural discipline to be exercised at an older age. A ten year old who has been shocked by sexually explicit information, finds his mind endlessly fixated to increasingly vivid sexual images, to the point where these images compel expression. One can quickly see the problems this presents to a child: A young boy may develop a desire to molest his younger sister in order to experiment safely on someone weaker than himself who doesn't have the consciousness to shame him about what he's doing, and can't get him into trouble. If he does gratify his ego through sexual activity, he feels greater conflict and emptiness, and, strangely enough, ever stronger waves of uncontrollable sexual desires, accompanied by frustration, dissatisfaction, and rage.
When a child's sexual nature is awakened too soon, he is simply not able to put the sensuous giant back to sleep, and so lives in a terrible nightmare. Only people who have gone through it and have overcome their problems can really understand the debilitating, paralyzing fixation to sexual fantasy that possesses so many young minds – to the exclusion of work and study. Indeed, children can become so preoccupied with sex that they can no longer function in school – no wonder Johnny can't read.
Once a child is sexually awakened, he gravitates toward society's "sexperts" who eagerly assure him that every new impulse is perfectly normal. It's all approved under the umbrella of self expression.
A child is extremely vulnerable to these ideas – especially when presented by adults in positions of authority – as he has not yet developed the ability to shield himself from dangerous influences.
Consider the nightmares young people sometimes have after watching a horror film. A child cannot make an objective appraisal of what he is seeing; the images of terror gain entrance to his mind and excite his imagination, and only parental comfort and assurance can dispel their frightening power. But unlike the horror film images that fade quickly in the light of day, graphic sexual images continue to hold the child's mind captive as he is helplessly assaulted by them in the classroom, time after time.
Today's sex education classes are actually a form of child abuse, which systematically tears down a child's modesty – his protective barrier against obscene/intrusive influences. When this barrier collapses and a person is seduced into his imagination, right choices are no longer available. It is like falling into an Alice in Wonderland world of feeling in which every door leads farther away from reality. Emotional/sexual arousal blocks the youngster's mind from making rational choices that could lead to truly human relationships, rather than blind animal attachments. How can a child remain unscarred when exposed to demonstrations of nudity, genital anatomy and graphic descriptions of the mating process? All this sexual overload violates the soul and creates a terrible conflict in the young child's mind.
Young boys are not told they must be gentlemen with young ladies. Instead, they are given explicit sexual instruction but they have no easy way to undo the damage to their psyches.
The biological facts of sex are readily observable and do not require years of study – the animal kingdom supplies abundant opportunities to observe the basics. It is not the knowledge, but the responsibility that goes with the knowledge that makes a person more than an animal. Knowledge is acquired from the outside, but the wisdom to deal with that knowledge comes from within. Sexual knowledge without responsibility can destroy a child's character, his personality, his feelings about the opposite sex and his entire view of life. Regardless of the positive image family planning groups have created, the unadorned truth is that these organisations seduce young people into premature sexual activity, and then exploit that failure by providing a means to fulfill their victims' growing addiction to excuses, contraceptives and abortions.
The clinics that bring their messages into the schools may not consciously be cultivating a market for their products, but that is precisely what they are doing – at the price of a child's innocence. They reduce others to an animal level – something easily accomplished when a child is sexually indoctrinated at a young age – and appeal to their base nature, first by awakening the sensuous desire, and then by nurturing it – while gaining power for themselves.
The saddest part of all this may be that a child's natural trust in authority, represented by teachers, is completely betrayed. Instead of truly educating a child – a process by which a child's natural curiosity about life is nurtured so that he may unfold from within – today's sex educators have become corrupters who, with smiles on their faces, drag their victims into a world of sexual license, moral relativity, and perversion. This is first degree murder of the soul. If only we understood the importance of protecting our children from those who would rip the veil of modesty from them. Children need to know that love is more than sex, people are more than animals, and relations between people must be governed by moral laws. What differentiates man from animals is conscience, from which emanates a common sense code of decency and self control. Obeying this deep impulse leads to self reliance, moral fortitude and character – the fertile soil in which individual selfhood and true freedom can flower.
Reverse the process, override the inner law, and say goodbye to civilization.
[Editor's note: This article was used as briefing material in the British Parliament during our last Conservative majority government, when the House of Lords voted for the right of parents to withdraw their children from sex education classes, to include those introduced as HIV education. The House of Commons also approved the legislation and this fundamental right under law has subsequently withstood a number of insidious attempts to abolish it.]
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Roy Masters who in his 80s continues to broadcast the longest-running counseling show in talk radio history, his internationally syndicated daily radio program Advice Line, grew up in pre-WWII England. He started his journey toward understanding human nature when as a teen he saw a stage hypnotist at a vaudeville show in Brighton. The hypnotist easily put volunteer subjects in a spell and made them do outlandish things, like dancing with a broom and forgetting their own names.
Puzzled by the hypnotist's mysterious power, Roy distinctly remembers pondering the question: "Why can't hypnotism be used to make people act sensibly, rather than foolishly?" Inspired by the idea of harnessing this baffling force for good, he later pursued the art of hypnotism and established a successful hypnotherapy practice.
After several years of practice, Masters made his central and pivotal discovery about the root of people's emotional problems, addictions and complexes. He realized that people did not need hypnosis, because their core problem was that they are already hypnotized not by a clever stage performer, but by the stresses, pressures and seductions of daily life.
He used his knowledge to discover a way to help us become de-hypnotized, and discovered that the root of the power of negative suggestion lay in our wrong emotional response, that of resentment. Masters' remarkably effective exercise, a simple observation technique called Be Still and Know is at the core of his unmatched track record in helping people overcome even the most serious mental-emotional problems, and is the centerpiece of a successful program within the U.S. military community (Patriot Outreach) that is helping thousands of military personnel and their families cope with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).