The Denigration Of Motherhood

The Denigration Of Motherhood

I have never been a woman so some would say that I have no business identifying with one.  That is WITH one…not AS one.  There are a lot of things in the world that I have never BEEN that I can relate to.

To empathize means “to understand or share the feelings of another.”  I have never been a dog, but I sure can tell when our aging beagle Daisy is uncomfortable.  My wife, who has also never been a dog, and I do all we can to make her life comfortable…at least comfort as we would think a dog would want to be.

By the same token, Daisy has never been a person, but that doesn’t keep her from sensing when something is stressing out her human.  For most of us, empathy comes natural.  I guess it is part of the natural human condition.

So, even though I have never been, nor do I desire to be, a woman, I would like to offer some advice towards those who are.  Sometimes it is easier for others to see the issue that someone is dealing with more clearly than the one that is struggling.

Relatively speaking, if being a feminist is still defined as “the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities” I identify as a card carrying feminist.

But somehow I don’t think that definition applies to what I see passing as “feminism” anywhere in today’s society.  Let me explain.

I feel sorry for many women today.  Is that sexist for me to say?  Is it culturally correct for me to feel sorry for a woman?  I’m not sorry for saying so…even if it offends anyone.

My wife (as previously stated a woman) and I spend time regularly at our local abortion mill pleading for the lives of the unborn babies who are being dismembered there.  In a bit of irony, I often find myself, having experienced parenthood, explaining to a young woman, who has never been a parent, the joys of parenthood.

Why is it that they don’t respect my opinion even though they have never experienced that joy?  Women have been sold such a lie about motherhood.  It grieves me to see how little respect most women have for blessings of being a woman.

My wife and I are lucky enough to have been blessed with a son and two wonderful daughters.  Michele has always been the perfect example of the Proverbs 31 woman and she has passed those characteristics along to our daughters.  Both our daughters are WONDERFUL wives and mothers.

Call me old fashioned but I look around at the young women today who despise the gift of motherhood.  They have been sold a fake-feminism…the idea that the best thing a woman can aspire to be is on equal footing with a man.

Those are the empty women I see slinking into abortion clinics around America…women who have sold the gift of motherhood for the vain and nebulous appeal of equality.  They are too blind to see that they are gifted in a way that a man can never be gifted.  Can there possibly be a greater act of love on the earth than the sacrificing of a woman’s personal ambitions for the fruit of the womb?

Motherhood is forever.  A career in a “man’s” world is temporary.

The greatest lie that feminism sold women is the belief that she and her “significant other” are on equal footing.  Equal opportunity, yes.  Complete equality?  Impossible.

Our daughters were both accomplished athletes in college and both attained respected jobs in their chosen professions after graduation.  Both of them today are stay at home moms and find great personal fulfillment by building into the lives of the next generation.  They CHOSE to stay home and have found that the raising of children is much more fulfilling than anything else they could possibly do.

As I once overheard our oldest Abby say to one of her soon-to-be-a-mother college friends, “I would never have believed it if someone had told me before but being a mother is the most amazing thing I have ever done in my life.”  Amen Abby.  You learned well from your mother.

The poison fruit of the feminist movement is the fact that “equal footing”  has granted millennial men the right to be irresponsible.  “It is her choice” I often hear “fathers” say at the abortion clinic when we challenge them to protect their pre-born baby.

“Real men protect their babies…they don’t permit them to be killed,” we say to the immature fathers.  “You aren’t a man when you can make a baby; you are a man when you can raise a baby.”

I guess with men and women being equal there is no need for a man to be a man.

Look around you friends.  How many young girls between the ages of 20 and 30 do you see that are childless?  Whatever happened to the idea that the most fulfilling thing that you could ever do was to pass on your heritage to the next generation.

As strange as science has become in today’s world we still know that it is impossible to create a child without both a sperm and an egg.  As unfair as it may seem no man can EVER give birth to a new life.  It is the greatest honor God ever gave to a human being…the carrying of an unborn child to the moment of birth.

God gave that gift to a woman.  No matter how often they try to brainwash you otherwise the joy of giving birth is the pinnacle of the human experience. How much better America would be today if we had taught that simple truth to our children.

As the old saying goes, the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. That is the true power of womanhood.  That is so much more important than simply being equal with a man.

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  • Julie Bucker
    Posted at 10:28h, 13 July Reply

    I never hear things like this from women, but I do hear it from men. Thank you Dave for this article.

    Men and Women need to learn how to respect and understand each other. My understanding as a spiritual person, is that women give physical birth, but men actually can give spiritual birth. Think of Jesus, how He said you need to be ‘born again’. Men and Women are exact mirrors of each other when you take the spiritual into account. Just like the right and the left hand are actually controlled by the opposite half of the brain, what men and women do spiritually is reversed in the physical.

    It is easier to embrace our nature when we respect each other and realize we really are the same but on opposite sides of the figure 8 of eternal life.

    I hope what comes from this is a better understanding of who we really are and how we can be grateful for who we are. It is so hard to be a stay at home mom these days because of the culture, and I appreciate these articles that support motherhood, because there are so few of them.

  • James Thomas
    Posted at 11:34h, 13 July Reply

    That would be all fine and dandy Dave, if you and your wife Michele agreed to adopt about three dozen of those children whose mothers you could convince to go to full term. You’d spend your next ten years seeking alms to help support your self styled orphanage. There is a reason Abortion is rearing its ugly head in our society, and it is only partially what you think it is. There comes a time for everything under heaven, a time for loving and a time for killing, a time for……… I know you know the verse.

    Humanity has figured out that continuing to have babies at the rate of a third world nation, will have America become a third world nation within short order as we are seeing with our immigrant population who still believe as you do. Some are Muslim and many are from South of the border third world nations. The statistic prove that they are having babies at a far greater rate than White America, and it is also those who impart to their children that American Law is not for them. I know you are a well meaning man, but this issue is fraught with too many variables to nail one as the exact problem, and apparently it is too unsolvable to be contested to a stand still.

    Did you ever think that maybe those babies did not want to be born into this forming quagmire which is abut to explode in our collective faces. I’m sorry if you don’t believe babies are capable of those decision, but you must stop thinking of them as innocent babies. They are literally full grown entities, as much so as we believe ourselves to be.

    • Jay
      Posted at 14:32h, 13 July Reply

      James, I realize that the liberal left wants us to believe that no one wants these kids, but the fact is that people are standing in line to adopt children. And it’s not just gay perverts either. There has been a pinch on adoption agencies for years trying to accommodate the demand for children. As men become chemically impotent by the pharmaceutical industry and emotionally castrated by women’s liberation, they just can’t produce like they once did.

  • Jay
    Posted at 12:44h, 13 July Reply

    If you believe or say that men and women are equal and should have equal rights under the law then you have helped to create the problem of abortion, divorce, feminism and homosexuality. And you have failed miserably to understand what it means to be a man or a woman either for that matter.

    You are in fact cooperating with the enemies of our nation and the enemy of your own soul even if you still have enough conscience left to recognize that it is wrong to abort a baby. There was a time when a man was considered to be the head of his household and his wife could not even testify against her husband in a court of law. With the advent of feminism and the concept of women’s rights, a woman can divorce her husband for no reason at all, kill his child in the womb without his consent and show every kind of disrespect imaginable in the process. She can pick up the phone and call the police to have him arrested and hauled away from his own house, which the law now allows her to take from him in a divorce court with no questions asked.

    Nope Dave, I know you see yourself as a conservative, but you really aren’t if you believe that women should have rights under the law that allow them to disobey their husband.

  • Adam Brates
    Posted at 22:26h, 13 July Reply

    Amen. agree with you Jay. A little about myself… I work in the public school system in a progrssive liberal town in the northeast USA. I dare not ever say what I believe in or around the people I work
    WIth as I would almost certainly lose my job and God only knows what else. (Am looking for employment outside of the cesspool that is public indoctrination *cough* I mean EDUCATION of course. The particular middle school I work at made national headline news in 2007 for being the first middle school in The USA to offer school age girls as young as 6th grade oral contraceptive pills without parental consent in a special ‘healthcare clinic’ they have setup (on the taxpayers dime of course) School as I see it is about 80% indoctrination and propaganda, The public school system is a microcosm of the community/country as a whole.
    Case in point- The other day a group of students (mostly boys) were playing kickball on the field during recess. A group of girls were sitting and happily chatting away on the bleachers. An older female teacher approached them and asked “why don’t any of you girls want to play kickball?” One of the girls quipped, “Because kickball is for boys”. The female teacher called her out for her non-feminist, we’re all equal statement seemingly quite agitated and said “Listen here (girls name) A female can do ANYTHING a male can do and a male can do ANYTHING a female can do!!” The girl did not respond, teacher continued “You NEED to understand that? DO you understand that?”
    Of course I kept silent, I’ll lose my job and hung from a lamppost if I were to tell her that in fact there are certain things a man can do and not a woman and vice versa. We are NOT equal in terms of our abilities. Men and women are endowed with certain distinct traits By God our creator. God created Men to lead and love their women. Women are to be loved and led by man. I understand your children are grown, however a parent who sends their child to a public school in our new America needs to understand that their child Will come out with almost certain probability a fully indoctrinated abortion loving, feminist mind slave after 12 + years in the public sewage system … Parents these days need to take a good hard look at alternatives to the public education system if they want to raise children with Godliness.

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